Female orgasm and how

I am a year-old woman , and I have never, to my knowledge, had an orgasm. The question can feel vaguely patronizing, but it also fills me, and others like me studies tend to put the share of nonorgasmic women at 5 to 10 percent , with a creeping sense of self-doubt. I thought for a moment. But no matter how much I am enjoying myself, there inevitably comes a time, both on my own and with a partner, when the physical pleasure, having built and built, either fades to nothing or becomes a sensation too uncomfortable to bear, and provides neither the rapture nor release I have imagined and sometimes even conjure in my dreams. For years I relished the novelty of touching and being touched by someone separate from myself, not to mention the discovery—I must have been about 11—that I could slide my pelvis beneath the bathtub faucet and elicit that delicious-and-then-unbearable sensation I described above.

While the female orgasm happens behind closed curtains. So what do we know about it? Well, of 8, nerve endings, the clitoris is definitely the star of the show. Yet it's not all about the clitoris.

After an especially mind-blowing session between the sheets, you've probably been asked or asked your partner , "Was it good for you, too? Scientific research shows that there are some major differences between male vs female orgasms — or orgasms for people with vulvas and people with penises. The human body is a pretty cool thing. Not only do we have the ability to produce new life, but we also have the capacity to have a great time while doing it. It makes sense that a basic bodily function can happen in all genders.

In one of my favorite scenes from American Pie , Kevin solicits relationship advice from the impossibly chill and all-knowing love guru, Jessica. He needs help with his girlfriend Vicky, who's pissed because Kevin won't say the "L" word. Jessica gives it to him straight: "You've got to either give her the big 'L' or the big 'O,'" she says. Translated, Jessica's telling Kevin to do one of only two things: either say "I love you" -- or give Vicky a great, toe-curling orgasm. I found out just how perfect Jessica's advice was during my freshman year in college and had my first orgasm with another human being.